Sun Conjunction Sun Synastry: When You Each Go About Life the Same Way

Every chart has a Sun, and it does one job: it is who you are. It is the self you steer by, what you want, where you are heading, the energy you bring into a room. Sun conjunction Sun in synastry means that your Sun and their Sun are in the same spot in the zodiac, or within a few degrees of it. Nobody brings something different here: you each bring the same kind of thing, and it points the same way.

Two points in the same spot usually share a sign, and so they share an element (fire, earth, air or water) and a way of moving: some signs start things, some keep things going, some adapt as they go. (Usually, not always: a conjunction that starts near the edge of a sign can reach across it.) There is little to separate you by temperament. The way one of you goes about life is often the way the other goes about it.

That is why this contact tends to read as fusion, or as mirroring. It can feel less like meeting someone and more like meeting your own habits from the outside. What one of you does without thinking is often what the other would have done.

It can turn up between friends, siblings, colleagues, flatmates, or a parent and their child just as well as between partners, and it is only one of many contacts in any two charts.

Because both of you have a Sun in this spot, the contact is the same whichever way you look at it. Your Sun and their Sun match, and their Sun and your Sun match. There is no one who steadies and one who is steadied. Each of you is both the person being matched and the one doing the matching.

For each of you, the experience is of being met by someone who already wants roughly what you want. You may explain a plan and find there is little to explain. The other person's sense of direction often points the way yours does, so you are not pulling against each other, and you may not be pulling at all. The pace you like, the amount of fuss you like, the things you will not put up with: these tend to be familiar to both of you before they are said.

Mirroring is the other half of it. Each of you may see your own best habits in the other, and also the ones you would rather not look at. Someone who is stubborn, or restless, or generous in the same way you are can feel very easy to be around, and now and then a little too easy to recognise. Neither of you is being unfair; you are looking at a likeness.

Put simply, each of you tends to give the other the experience of being understood without a speech. In a Sun conjunction Sun, giving and receiving follow the same path, so there is often little friction in it.

What each of you tends to give is agreement that is not effort. You can back the other's plan without talking yourself into it, because it is close to the plan you would have made. You tend to take their direction seriously, because you know what it is like from the inside. Encouragement from someone who wants something different can grate. From someone who wants roughly what you do, it tends to be welcome.

What each of you may want in return is mostly that: to be taken as you are, without having to translate. Being accepted at face value often matters to both of you, and here it can come for free. Neither of you may have to change yourself to suit the other, because there is little to change.

What this contact does not tend to supply is the thing you do not have. Both of you have the same Sun in the same spot, so neither of you brings a different view of how to live. If something is missing from the way you each go about life, it may be missing from both of you at once.

These are sketches, not reports: illustrations of how the contact might show up across different kinds of pairs.

• Flatmates. One of you suggests getting up early to do the big shop; the other was about to suggest the same thing. Over a year the household settles into one routine, and a visitor cannot tell whose it was. Then the milk runs out, and neither of you thought to check.
• Parent and child. A parent and their teenager both dislike being told what to do. Each recognises that reluctance in the other at once, and each is a little annoyed to see it from the outside. They also tend to get one another's reasons faster than anyone else in the house.
• Colleagues. Two colleagues with the same working style are given one project. They split it without discussion, each taking the part the other would have taken, and the first draft is done by lunch. Later each finds the other has quietly left out the same awkward section.
• Friends. Two friends plan a trip. Each has said, separately, that they would like to go somewhere with no schedule. Neither suggests a plan until a third person asks what the plan is.
• Partners. One of you says at breakfast that it is time to change something about how you live. The other had been about to say it. They are pleased, and a little surprised that nobody disagreed.

In each sketch the same thing happens: one person's way of being is met by the same way in the other, so it goes through without a fight and without a second opinion.

Because a conjunction usually keeps to one sign, the element of that sign shapes the whole contact. In plain terms: fire is enthusiasm and action, earth is practical steadiness, air is talk and ideas, water is feeling.

Fire. You both tend to want to start now, at the same speed, with the same appetite for a challenge. It might look like two friends who decide on a Friday afternoon to enter a race on Sunday and are both signed up before the call is over.

Earth. You both tend to trust what is solid and want it kept. It might look like two colleagues who each distrust the new system for the same reason, and who quietly keep the old spreadsheet up to date side by side.

Air. You both tend to live a lot in talk and ideas. It might look like two siblings who argue happily over the dinner table about a topic neither will move on, each making exactly the points the other expected.

Water. You both tend to go by feeling, and in the same direction. It might look like a parent and grown child who each avoid the subject of a family quarrel for the same reason, and each assume the other would be hurt to hear it raised.

The closeness is real, and it can leave things out that belong to a shared Sun in particular.

First, nobody is challenged. Someone who feels at home with who you are is lovely to have around. It is not the same as someone who asks where you are going. Your Sun and their Sun point the same way, so your direction can go unexamined here, because it rarely upsets anyone. Both of you may follow a plan for a long time without either of you questioning it.

Second, two people wanting the same thing can mean wanting it at the same moment. When there is one place at the table, one promotion, one last say in a decision, you may both reach for it. This is not rivalry in the usual sense: you may not be competing, only both asking. It can be a little odd when it happens, because the other person is not an opponent, just you again.

Third, neither of you brings what the other lacks. If the sign you share tends to overdo something, such as talking, pushing, holding back or taking charge, you may both do it, and each may take the other's doing it as proof that it is normal. A shared blind spot can go unmentioned for a long time.

None of this is a flaw in the contact or in either of you. It is what this kind of closeness can be like to live with, and it comes with a plain advantage: a hard thing tends to be easier to say, because each of you often assumes the other is already on your side.

• You often say the same thing at the same moment, or reach for the same plan.
• One of you can predict how the other will react to news, and is usually right.
• You can see your own habits in the other, and it is not always comfortable.
• Now and then you both want the same thing at the same moment, and nobody is competing.
• Sometimes you both miss the same thing, and it takes a third person to point it out.